tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.comments2023-04-24T04:26:25.783-07:00Blahbitty BlahsCrystallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04718357899302158517noreply@blogger.comBlogger157125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-81466122386792749932011-02-13T08:56:14.677-08:002011-02-13T08:56:14.677-08:00i am a social worker "specializing" in j...i am a social worker "specializing" in just this very experience. i went through it with my ONE child and constantly wondered how to affect some kind of change about it. i help other moms now, but it is not enough. we all still feel so isolated with this experience. in the wee hours of this morning i thought i'd like to write a book that creates greater social awareness of this dilemma. it is not chemical postpartum depression, per se, that i am talking about. it is motherhood in the "nuclear" family, in the commercial world- the mommy blues. i appreciate the post from the husband. and special thanks to the author of this heartfelt and honest description of what so many of us grapple with daily. yes, it is okay. and you are not alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-44035452328627015922011-02-08T04:51:12.894-08:002011-02-08T04:51:12.894-08:00I, too, came across your blog while searching Momm...I, too, came across your blog while searching Mommy Blues. I feel the same way and it is good to know that it's normal. I love love love my family and I think that's why we feel so bad is because we love them so much that we think that we don't deserve any time for ourselves. <br /><br />Have you thought about using coupons? I use coupons to save us a ton of money on groceries! Here is a link to my money saving blog if you are interested:<br /><br />http://sassysaversonamission.blogspot.com/<br /><br />My husband and I have very little help with the kids, so when he is off he helps me, and he is WONDERFUL! BUT we hardly ever get anytime away from the kids and it leaves us feeling exhausted and stressed. We don't even know what to do to have fun anymore when we do get a few minutes to ourselves! We've been away on a date about 2 times in the past 4 mos. We have went to dr. apt's together without the kids and made that into a date--isn't that sad. I feel like this is going to take a toll on our marriage. We do have a wonderful marriage and I know that I am so blessed to have him. I just don't want to lose it because we didn't spend enough time together. What are some easy ways to have fun (besides watching tv and heading to the bedroom)? Thanks!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15940202829554242911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-72514583493644319402010-03-19T08:51:52.523-07:002010-03-19T08:51:52.523-07:00(Stopping by from CM)
Wow! Very ironic that both ...(Stopping by from CM)<br /><br />Wow! Very ironic that both husbands had similar accidents. That would totally spook me! I am glad he is ok and I hope he recovers quickly.SoCal_Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02961761239037995317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-26462587167659140542010-03-11T20:22:57.232-08:002010-03-11T20:22:57.232-08:00It IS only a finger. Doesn't feel like it now...It IS only a finger. Doesn't feel like it now, but one day it will. Heard the story from a little bird. Wanted to send well wishes for a complete and speedy recovery. Youth is a magnet for emotional baggage. Maturity builds promise and strength. Make this challenging time make you stronger for each other. Oh yeah...and make sure he listens to his Ortho and Hand Therapist. <br /><br />Best Wishes,<br /><br />-Tres DelosAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-50035519300757778072010-02-20T07:26:26.248-08:002010-02-20T07:26:26.248-08:00Good to hear from you -It does sound like you have...Good to hear from you -It does sound like you have your hands full! Ugh-I hate the terrible two's but yes it is nice to know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And sorry to hear about your dad.<br />On another note you do look totally glam in that pic! :)Mom Mayhem says:https://www.blogger.com/profile/17272068724949565544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-10431181195320313912010-01-11T11:34:14.976-08:002010-01-11T11:34:14.976-08:00I am on the other side of this. I am a husband, w...I am on the other side of this. I am a husband, watching my wife experience what for the most part I think is what you so perfectly described. She isn't a stay at home mom, she does work, but she hates her job, and I think that makes it worse. I leave for my job before she is even awake, she uses no alarm any more to get up as our 2yr old wakes her up every morning with pounding on the door. <br /><br />From the moment she wakes up till she goes to bed she has to be mommy/wife. <br /><br />She gets him ready, takes him to daycare, goes to a job she hates, comes home and goes right back into mommy mode. I try to help, as much as I can, I make the meals and help with our son as much as I can. But even still, she is still being mommy. Once he is in bed, we proceed to clean up, shower, go to bed and start it all again. <br /><br />I don't think she realizes she has the mommy blues, but I can see it. I can also see the results, and as much as I try to help and do what I can. Daddy is starting to feel lonely too. <br /><br />If its like this for daddy, I can only imagine what you women go through. <br /><br />Reading your post helped me to see more of what she might be going through, i don't know what all i can to help that would be helpful for more than the evening she gets away, but atleast i know..Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07782133019958414885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-36036277046134279412010-01-11T11:30:09.086-08:002010-01-11T11:30:09.086-08:00Definitely take time for yourself. I firmly believ...Definitely take time for yourself. I firmly believe more mothers need to learn to do this. It helps keep you sane (or at least it helps keep me sane LOL!) =)Brandiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09181341595095947329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-71477379321391881832010-01-08T12:53:31.473-08:002010-01-08T12:53:31.473-08:00You are absolutely right. We are better people an...You are absolutely right. We are better people and mothers when we take care of ourselves too. Great post!Cyndihttp://www.somuchmorethanamom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-16679941382016400132010-01-08T12:15:25.887-08:002010-01-08T12:15:25.887-08:00My precious daughter, you sound like your mother. ...My precious daughter, you sound like your mother. They say the fruit doesn't fall far from the trees. Thanks for the encouraging words. You are right. It holds true even after our children are grown up and gone and living their own lives. Grand Mothers have to remember to put themselves on the priority list and to remember that they are important too. Mothers are always putting others before themselves even when they become Grand Mothers. We need to watch out not to make it a way of life to always be last. Our health is important, our lively hood is important, our self worth is important, Mothers (and Grand Mothers) are imporant. Love you very much. You are a fantastic mother!!!computergrlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-67593940225807444722009-12-31T21:45:08.277-08:002009-12-31T21:45:08.277-08:00One dollar. Preferably folding cash. I don't k...One dollar. Preferably folding cash. I don't know anyone who gives ten dollars!!Beckinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-2306482141409873512009-12-04T05:11:19.629-08:002009-12-04T05:11:19.629-08:00Wow! Talk about touching sooooo many thoughts and...Wow! Talk about touching sooooo many thoughts and feelings I have been having! The diploma gathering dust, no energy or enthusiasm to acknowledge special holidays(xmas is coming and I am dreading it). So many times I have said "Why did I want this?"<br />I spend alot of time feeling guilty. My husband is wonderful, really wonderful, but I get so jealous of him sometimes. His job takes him to warm and sometimes exotic places ie. Italy, and I have to be happy for him but it is so hard. I hate myself most of the time and wish I could take a happy pill to give me a permanent grin and take away the desire to be somewhere else. Thanks for sharing your feelings and giving all us Moms the chance to do so too!<br />Treena, Nova Scotia, CanadaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-6384355634760829622009-12-01T08:37:11.230-08:002009-12-01T08:37:11.230-08:00Welcome Back! I know what you mean on the "fa...Welcome Back! I know what you mean on the "family issue" -Just read my last post if you haven't already =D Oh and I seriously hate when it seems something should be a simple errand/task but isn't -At least your kids will help keep you entertained ;)Mom Mayhem says:https://www.blogger.com/profile/17272068724949565544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-29738709551389852272009-10-07T20:53:28.659-07:002009-10-07T20:53:28.659-07:00Hi honey - been missing you, but completely unders...Hi honey - been missing you, but completely understand. We all love you and are praying with you...<br /><br />KathyKathy Rainwaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773509971896952850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-72010974742358072002009-09-25T10:19:41.449-07:002009-09-25T10:19:41.449-07:00I'm sorry to hear of your family's loss. M...I'm sorry to hear of your family's loss. My father in law passed away last year-I know it's dificult. Hang in there! we'll be here when you're ready.Mom Mayhem says:https://www.blogger.com/profile/17272068724949565544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-66446572384960069462009-09-25T07:01:27.443-07:002009-09-25T07:01:27.443-07:00I'm very sorry to hear about your family's...I'm very sorry to hear about your family's loss... God bless you guys. Take care.Loukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-1252168737779227752009-09-24T21:38:15.091-07:002009-09-24T21:38:15.091-07:00I'm so sorry to hear about your father-in-law ...I'm so sorry to hear about your father-in-law Crystall. <br /><br />Looking forward to hearing more from you soon!Lady Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00933248315325429447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-19904618326468881202009-09-01T21:38:32.198-07:002009-09-01T21:38:32.198-07:00I have cried every year on the first day of school...I have cried every year on the first day of school - something about my babies growing up - this year my youngest is in 6th last year of elementary and my oldest is in 8th grade last year of junior high.... <br />Next week I expect to cry some more...<br />Love,<br />Kelly<br />http://www.ivebecomemymother.comKelly Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02990072727974408086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-65061308120731279422009-09-01T09:48:14.125-07:002009-09-01T09:48:14.125-07:00This was such an amazing post. So well written and...This was such an amazing post. So well written and so very true. I'm scared and sad for my oldest son to be starting kindergarten soon. I know on one hand, he needs to do this, to go to school, to gain some independence, to learn, to be social, but I feel bad, too. He is very attached to me and his father and my mom, and I'm scared for him. It's so emotional, isn't it?Loukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-18156050165401493132009-08-25T20:22:18.979-07:002009-08-25T20:22:18.979-07:00Aww, poor guy! But soon he'll be riding his bi...Aww, poor guy! But soon he'll be riding his bike no problem I bet.Lady Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00933248315325429447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-42150844800584823652009-08-24T06:55:40.428-07:002009-08-24T06:55:40.428-07:00Oh my gosh, are you serious?? Your poor little guy...Oh my gosh, are you serious?? Your poor little guy! Aww... :) Yes, in a few days, try it again!Loukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-90426308274331646892009-08-18T23:22:14.432-07:002009-08-18T23:22:14.432-07:00WOW - she is beautiful!!! and so happy - just look...WOW - she is beautiful!!! and so happy - just look at that grin.. What a blessing. God never ceases to amaze me... Happy Birthday to Lyla and many many many more to come.<br /><br />Love,<br />KellyKelly Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02990072727974408086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-49980052255517377302009-08-18T21:17:40.041-07:002009-08-18T21:17:40.041-07:00Happy Birthday to Lyla! She is so gorgeous. And he...Happy Birthday to Lyla! She is so gorgeous. And hey, she's a year - does that mean you're past the hardest part now? And yes I do think the memories of those difficult times will fade.Lady Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00933248315325429447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-49105923684934159692009-08-18T05:27:42.026-07:002009-08-18T05:27:42.026-07:00So glad you all are feeling better!!! Those are so...So glad you all are feeling better!!! Those are some cute pics of your boys, you know! Aww!Loukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-89805204499846546972009-08-12T22:08:24.266-07:002009-08-12T22:08:24.266-07:00Great attitude.. I also had some weird ad with a h...Great attitude.. I also had some weird ad with a half naked woman with her large breasts spilling over - it said something like- see God... I thought oh my - what are my readers going to think... so I took the adsense ad off - put it back it's okay for now.. funnyKelly Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02990072727974408086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3171521403374682342.post-89574757968962419342009-08-11T08:48:05.280-07:002009-08-11T08:48:05.280-07:00Kids do say the darndest things-Eh?! I like your ...Kids do say the darndest things-Eh?! I like your pics to go along with those too. The last pic -the REALLY tall lady I got that in an email before -Saying picture a 300 lb woman- I knew it! -I just need to be taller to be thin ;)<br />Anyways I've also meant to tell you that I really like the new pic of you too :)Mom Mayhem says:https://www.blogger.com/profile/17272068724949565544noreply@blogger.com