It has been an interesting day. I have been very preoccupied with thoughts of a comment on my last post, Crossing the Line by "Anonymous".
This is the comment:
Seriously...do you blame him? I think it's one thing to blog about your drama...but really. Perhaps common sense should have kicked in before you started to discuss your trust issues with him, his past and his OCPD. Perhaps you should have known about this before you married him....or did you?
After thinking about what this "mystery person" had to say, I was upset and even contemplated discontinuing my blog. I am quite sensitive, I suppose. After all, the comment wasn't THAT bad, or was it? Who are you, Anonymous, the marriage police?
The truth of the matter is, by blogging you open yourself up to other opinions on your personal life. When you disclose your thoughts, feelings, etc. openly, you are inviting people to give you their two cents-nice or not, warranted or not, out-of-line or not, psycho-killer-like or not. So, in the blogging world, I simply need to get thicker skin. One person's opinion of my life does not make my worth. I need to make that my mantra.
I have been trying to decide whether I will respond, whether it is really worth it. Or, really, whether I need to. And, I have come to this conclusion:
My blog is for me. Not anyone else. I am happy to have readers and people who are interested, but really, this is all about me. I need not worry about defending myself to any Joe Schmoe that happens upon my blog and has an opinion. Though, this person is not a "happened-upon-it" reader. There is no doubt that this person knows a bit more about me than I have divulged in this blog. Therefore, Anonymous, if you want your opinion to really matter maybe it should be delivered in person instead of hiding behind an Anonymous name.